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Be the One You Are

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Be the woman strong enough to say,
“God says I’m more valuable than this and I believe Him.”

Be the friend to yourself loving enough to say,
“Let me reach for help and be my own at the same time.”

Be the mother aware enough to say,
“Not my children. No they won’t grow up with these memories.”

Be the wife wise enough to say,
“I love you but not your anger, your punishment, your abuse of me.”

Be the partner determined to say,
“I am ending this before I hate you.”

Be the woman I know you are deep inside.
The four – year – old child who protected her brother.

Who fell asleep in my arms assured
I would keep my promise to not let you get hurt..

Please be this woman.
For you.
For your kids.
For your future.
For your family.
For me.

But most of all..
Please be this woman I know you are…
For you…
For your sons…
For your daughters.
             d.f.a.v. 10/20/14

Abusive relationships of any kind aren’t right according to the God I know.   If you are the one being abused, the strength to leave is within you.  If you need help ask.
If you are the abuser, let go, get help, STOP.  Love is not being hurt or hurting someone like this…with physical fists or emotional, mental or spiritual ones.
—Donna

Hearts Strong Enough

“Sometimes a heart simply isn’t strong enough to hold the pain of another human beings suffering so the mind can’t fathom it.” – A Holocaust Survivor

It is hard to ignore headline news:

  • April 19, 2005 – Oklahoma City Bombing of the F.B.I. building
  • September 11, 2001 the day planes flew into the World Trade Towers in New York City, the Pentagon in Washington D.C. and crashed in a field outside a town in Pennsylvania
  • November 22, 1963 John F. Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas, TX
  • March 30, 1981 Ronald Reagan was shot
  • April 20, 1999 Columbine High School when two kids shot and killed so many other kids before killing themselves
  • July 20, 2012 a gunman shoots kills 14 people and wounds 50 others at the premiere of a Batman movie

What about the things that don’t make the news on an individual basis?

  • Each year there are 3.3 million reports of abuse or neglect involving 6 million  American children resulting in the loss of 5 children per day giving the U.S. the worst record of any industrialized nation
  • One in four women experience domestic/relationship violence equaling 960,000 incidents and involving 3 million women each year

Sometimes we hear and don’t act or believe like the time the world turned its eyes and ears away from the greatest evil mankind has inflicted upon mankind when between the years 1933 to 1945 Adolf Hitler led a nation to murder 11 million Jews, Jehovah Witnesses, gypsies and disabled people?

There is so much more evil in this world.

  • There are homes where men have neglected to be godly men and who aren’t the spiritual leaders of their households
  • Homes where women have weakened the role of men by trying to take their place in the name of equality.
  • Men and women who have walked out on their children or women who have had babies aborted, with or without the biological father’s agreement.
  • Children of any age, any physical condition that are among the homeless, the vulnerable and unprotected care of anyone but themselves.

Naming the horrors of evil in this world isn’t hard.  Sometimes I feel as if I will explode with one more evil report.

  • One more murder
  • One more theft
  • One more accidental drowning
  • One more child abused
  • One more “present” from evil

At the end of the day I am left asking God one more time, “WHY?”  Immediately I hear a voice in my head saying “men choose evil”.

Yet I know even as I type out this post there are those saying,”But that sort of bad stuff doesn’t happen here!”  Do you think anyone went to work in the federal building in Oklahoma or one of the Twin Towers in New York City thinking someone would bomb their workplace or fly a plane into it?  The people who went to see the premiere of Batman, do you think they thought a gunman would storm in and start shooting?  Or any parent sends their child off to school thinking they may not come home again alive?  Does any woman, or man, get married thinking the person they are marrying is going to abuse them?  And if any man or woman thinks growing up they want to be the type of person who neglects or abuses their children, perhaps leading to their death I never want to meet them!

It does happen here, wherever there are human beings IT happens.  Think of the words from one Holocaust survivor:

“Sometimes a heart simply isn’t strong enough to hold the pain of another human beings suffering so the mind can’t fathom it.”

Do we have a heart strong enough to hold even part of the pain of another human beings suffering?  Can our minds wrap itself around their pain?  Only if we…

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.  Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.  Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of suffering.  And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.”  I Peter 5:6-10 N.I.V.