Something our pastor said one Sunday morning stays with me. He recounted couples who came to him seeking marital guidance when one or both partners tell him, “I just don’t love them anymore.”
Our pastor replies, “Love anyway” for fact is that feelings change. Commitments, promises, vows made before God do not.
Act in love. Speak in love. Do in love. Keep loving when the feeling is worn so you think it gone.
There are extremes that due to human involvement require exceptions. Personally I think in cases of physical abuse, repeative adultery or emotional, spiritual, mental or financial harm, then breaking the vows of marriage by divorce are necessary.
But from what I witness it isn’t these big rocks that shatter a marriage it is little pebbles, grains of sand.
Further we all seem to struggle with an “entitlement issue”. In other words “I deserve to be (fill in the blank).”
I want to be in love and be happy.
I want to be in love and my spouse do with and for me what I want, how I want, and when I want it.
I want a marriage where we both give 50/50, equal contributions.
I want THAT relationship.
Aha…is the grass always greener?
Few relationships fail due to one partner alone. Multiple relationships survive the hurricane because one partner digs in, stays on their knees and loves anyway.
Which is one of the messages from the movie Fireproof. Act in love. Speak in love. Do in love.
If your marriage is in trouble then be logical. Seek help. Working through the sand and pebbles makes the rock slides survival possible.
Paul by God’s inspiration, in 1 Corinthians 13 records for us what love is and is not. Love does not quit because the journey is tough.
Lust ends. Control shifts. Money comes and goes. Health improves and declines. Bodies age. Opinions differ. Children grow up.
Love does not quit.