Note from Faye: This blog series, “Am I Messing Up My Kids” is based in part on a book by that title by Lysa TerKeurst. Copies of that book are readily available from many sources. While it is not necessary to have a copy to participate and enjoy this blog series it will be helpful to you if you have one.
In the beginning of this chapter Lysa makes it clear she’s stretched to the max and her stress level is around 7 on a scale of 1 to 10. Her husband is out of town, each child had weekend events to get to and somehow she has ended up with four additional friends of her sons not only spending the night but to get to an out of town early morning soccer game.
She realizes she is running on empty from one gap to the next. She wants to spend time with God, allowing His Word to refresh her drained spirit. She wants a time of fellowship between God and herself to help her bucket to overflow. There just doesn’t seem to be any time.
The next morning she manages to get all the boys and one of her daughters up and out of the house by 5:45 a.m. to make the soccer match and half-way there someone points out they haven’t eaten breakfast. Feeling as if her status as a good mom is already in question she drops off the boys and hurries to the nearest drive thru with her daughter for biscuits and tea. The drinks are too large for the cup holders in the van so it becomes her daughter’s fate to hold the teas to keep them from spilling. It was a disaster waiting to happen. One pothole equaled tea all over the van. Mom’s stress level is above 10 and she turns to her daughter accusing her of letting the tea spill. The daughter responds with it wasn’t her fault her mom hit the pothole and out of Mom’s mouth flies, “Shut up and eat your d*** biscuit!” The daughter was hurt. Mom didn’t tell them to shut up. Mom didn’t cuss at them.
Mom was appalled with herself. The same mouth that praised God had just cussed at her child. Her spirits fell to the floor and she was sure she was the worst Mom ever. So she called a friend and after more than sufficient warning of the horrible thing she was about to share she told her what happened.
Her friend said, “That’s it?…That’s what you are so upset about? Apologize to her (the daughter), ask God for forgiveness, and get over it. So you had a hard morning. Stop letting Satan get the best of you and ask God to give you a new attitude.”
In reading this narrative I was struck by my own thought, “That’s it? THAT’S your WORST MOM EVER story? My gosh I can top that.” How many of you could too? If you feel comfortable doing so, share your “worst Mom ever story”.
But like the author the formula for getting back on track is to ask forgiveness from our child (ren), from God and let it go. We can’t let Satan have that stronghold over our spirits. God will give us a new attitude. We just HAVE TO MAKE TIME to SPEND WITH OUR CREATOR.
None of us can operate very long when our tank reads empty. Like a car, we can’t run on fumes, we need fuel. Spending time really listening and communicating with God is how we fill ourselves up. How we guard against worst Mom ever moments.
REFRESH YOUR SOUL:
Read Psalm 103:1-4
Before stating that God forgives his sins, David the author of this Psalm praises God first. What are some things you can praise God about right now?
In verse 2, David said, “forget not all his benefits”. What do you think he means?
What verbs are found in verses 3-5.
What does God forgive?
What does God heal?
What does God redeem?
What does God crown you with?
What does God satisfy your desires with?
Verse 5 states that your “youth is renewed like the eagle’s.” Life, energy and vitality return to your spirit. How does this make you feel?
God’s love for you is described in what way?
God does what with our sins?
“If God removes our sins, then why do we allow Satan to beat us up for them? Let God remove your sin and leave it with Him. Satan can’t beat us up with sin that we’ve let God truly have. Only when we hold on to it can Satan use it against us. Learn what God what to teach you about this sin in your heart and let it go.”
“Does fearing God mean “afraid of Him” fear? No, fearing God is a healthy respect and reverence of Him. How do you show this to the Lord?”
“We often think of God as big and powerful and mighty. But in this psalm it is very clear that His tender compassion is there for us as well. How do you show your own children compassion?”
Now that you’ve identified how you are compassionate with your children, identify how God is compassionate with you.
“Verse 17-18 tells us the Lord’s love is with whom?”
How many times does the word perfect appear in these verses?
“Whose righteousness will be with your children and your children’s children?”
Righteousness can be stated simply as “right choices that honor God.” To those who ask God gives the ability to make right choices that honor Him. He will do it for you and your children. Since children act what they see it is vital we model making choices that honor God before them. We will mess up but we can then model right behavior by pointing to God’s forgiveness, healing and redemption.
This psalm began with praise and ends the same way. Praise God for how He has blessed your heart through today’s study.